Thursday Open Thread

February 6, 2014

Today’s question! Co-ed baby showers: yea or nay?

Jessica Grose over at Slate says Big Fat Nay.

In my experience, baby showers aren’t about the gifts or about telling women that the baby is only their business. The baby shower is a space for women to get real talk from their moms, and from their mom’s friends, about having a kid. There will be talk of chafed nipples. There will be a discussion of the pros and cons of episiotomies, and your aunt will say, “tearing.” There will be labor stories and jokes about breast pumps and advice about lactation consultants. When men are present at the shower, there is none of this talk, to the detriment of the mom-to-be.

Those who are on the co-ed bandwagon say dad is part of the pregnancy and the baby’s life, too. I guess I never gave it much thought, but in my family, baby showers are co-ed. DH was at both of mine, along with my dad and uncles, and I never thought of it as weird.


When colleagues threw me baby showers, they were ladies only events, which was nice, too. (And no, chafed nipples never came up.) But I liked having DH at my showers because to me, he was an important part of the equation. Plus I needed help lugging all those gifts home.  😉


What say you? Should men be welcome or banished? What would your ideal baby shower be like?

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