Thursday Open Thread

January 17, 2013

When did you first feel like a “real” mom? Was it when you felt those kicks in utero? When you heard that first cry? When you strapped your baby into a car seat for the first time and headed home?

For actress Elizabeth Banks, that moment didn’t come until she had her second child.

She spoke to People this past weekend about how life has changed significantly since she had her second child in November. I don’t doubt that. But then she went on to say: “You don’t realize how easy one is until you have two. Now I’m really a mom. Oh, I am a mom now! This is for serious — I am responsible for two people now.”

Some people took offense at her comments, especially on behalf of parents of only children. I don’t think she meant any harm, and I kinda get where she’s coming from. Parenting one child felt like a breeze. DD was an angel baby and we were besotted with her from day one. DS came five years later, and wrangling the needs of two children in very different developmental stages was a whole different ballgame. For the first time, parenthood felt like some serious work. Insanely rewarding work, but work nonetheless.

But then there was her next woe-is-me anecdote:

She described to the magazine how over the holidays she and her husband, Max Handelman, had no help for 10 whole days:

“We had no help, no nannies, no babysitters. It was crazy. You forget how difficult it is to wake up in the middle of the night, how exhausting it is. I lost all my nails. I did dishes and cleaned bottles for 10 days so I lost all those nails!”

Oh dear.

Aaaaanyway… I am also fairly obsessed with the Catfish-like story of Notre Dame football star Manti Te’o and his faux dead girlfriend. Seriously, I couldn’t read this story fast enough. What do you make of it? DH thinks he was in on it. I tend to think he was a most unfortunate, innocent rube.

What else is up? Chat away!